Why my little girl WILL be different.

I just read this article on Newsweek’s website, Are We Turning Our Tweens into Generation Diva and it made me sick.  Here are some quotes from the article.

“Marleigh loves to get tan.”  Marleigh is a 2 year old little girl

“Forget having mom trim your bangs, fourth graders are in the market for lush $50 haircuts; by the time they hit high school, $150 highlights are standard.”

“Why are this generation’s standards different? To start, this is a group that’s grown up on pop culture that screams, again and again, that everything, everything, is a candidate for upgrading.”

Now I understand that I will not be able to control Jenna.  I will not be able to make choices for her, and force her to do as I please, but unless I am mistaken I am still the parent.  I also believe that Jenna will gravitate towards things that she sees her mom and dad doing and enjoying.  For instance Jenna can spend large portions of her day sitting and looking at her books, and acting like she is reading them.  Where did this come from?  In part I believe it came from the face that she sees her mom and day enjoy reading, and enjoy reading to her. 

So what if these girls had never been introduced to spa days, fake tanning, and make up, at an age when they should be playing and worrying nothing about their appearance.  What if during these formation years they were taught things like character, inner beauty, the  pitfalls of materialism, and giving is better than receiving. 

Maybe I am completely wrong and Jenna will grow up to be a materialistic diva, but it will not be because that is what she saw at home.


The Art of Forgiveness

Recently I have been spending a lot of time thinking about forgiveness.  Part of the reason is because I am leading a combined Sunday morning Bible Study through The Peacemaking Church small group material, this material discusses biblical conflict resolution.  This last week we covered lesson 7 and the key principle was, “Our forgiveness shows what we think of God’s forgiveness.”  During this discussion I also showed the Nooma video entitled Luggage. Continue reading

What’s the %&;;^*# problem?

Disclaimer: I firmly believe that all profanity is wrong.  I do not use profanity, nor do I allow students involved in our ministry to use profanity while at our ministry.  This is not a piece about profanity as much as it is a piece about hypocrisy.

This morning I watched this video on the Today Show, that showed several news anchors who without knowing they were on camera said some profanity.  The most recent incident being an anchor in New York that made a mistake, and then apologized on air for it.  As I was getting ready for work I asked my wife, why this was a big deal.  Continue reading