Why my little girl WILL be different.

I just read this article on Newsweek’s website, Are We Turning Our Tweens into Generation Diva and it made me sick.  Here are some quotes from the article.

“Marleigh loves to get tan.”  Marleigh is a 2 year old little girl

“Forget having mom trim your bangs, fourth graders are in the market for lush $50 haircuts; by the time they hit high school, $150 highlights are standard.”

“Why are this generation’s standards different? To start, this is a group that’s grown up on pop culture that screams, again and again, that everything, everything, is a candidate for upgrading.”

Now I understand that I will not be able to control Jenna.  I will not be able to make choices for her, and force her to do as I please, but unless I am mistaken I am still the parent.  I also believe that Jenna will gravitate towards things that she sees her mom and dad doing and enjoying.  For instance Jenna can spend large portions of her day sitting and looking at her books, and acting like she is reading them.  Where did this come from?  In part I believe it came from the face that she sees her mom and day enjoy reading, and enjoy reading to her. 

So what if these girls had never been introduced to spa days, fake tanning, and make up, at an age when they should be playing and worrying nothing about their appearance.  What if during these formation years they were taught things like character, inner beauty, the  pitfalls of materialism, and giving is better than receiving. 

Maybe I am completely wrong and Jenna will grow up to be a materialistic diva, but it will not be because that is what she saw at home.


The scariest thing Jenna has ever seen.

We are at the beginning stages of potty training our 16 month old daughter Jenna.  Two nights ago my wife put Jenna on her potty and she went poop for the first time in her potty.  Now when she pees in her potty she has to stand up, look at it, and then point at it.  This time she stood up, looked at the poop, and started to cry and back up.  She continued to cry and scream, until I got rid of it. 

That incident was two days ago, and Jenna is still afraid to sit on her potty.  What I realized though is that was the first time she had probably ever seen her own poop, and so it was probably a little tramatic.

How fast does patience walk?

One of the many things that I love about Jenna(our 16 month old daughter) is that she is an outside girl.  She absolutely loves to be outside, doing anything.  In the last couple weeks  we have had some unseasonably warm days, so Jenna and I have gone outside to take walks.  Since she started walking in December, she has not really experienced walking outside by herself.  We walk up and down our street a couple times and then she gets tired and go inside. 

What you must know is that I compulsively walk fast.  I am often accused of being in a hurry, when in fact it is my normal walking speed.  Jenna is teaching me to walk slow.  She loves to look at every little thing, so we walk a little and stop a little, which makes the two block walk last awhile.  She has a great time being outside, and I have a great time spending time with her.  But it is hard for me to walk that slow, and so she is teaching me things.  She is teaching me to observe everything, and to pray for our neighbors. 

I love these walks with her, even if they only last five minutes, it is usually the best five minutes of my day.  Can’t wait for consistently warm days, so I can learn more patience with Jenna.